Hey guys

I’ve just recently had something important on my heart to say for a while. I hope its not to long but I really need to say it. There are a great number of things that have made me furious with the church. One of the issues that is closest to my own heart is the roles that the church has assigned to gender. Oh no! He’s going to get seriously controversial! Yes,…….. yes I am and if its to much for you then just keep scrolling down on the newsfeed and find something else to read. In some ways the church culture that has been created has created ideas about gender among other things that have absolutely nothing to do with what God has already established from the beginning. In the view of the church,women are always supposed to be busy little helpers that are buzzing around tiring themselves out with endless tasks and volunteering for one thing after another. If you think about it every church has at least one busy body role model that is looking for attention and the praise she so desperately needs. At any church event all of the staff go out of their way to praise and blow up the work that this particular women does. Its not really at all what God has made women to be.  On top of that the church has made no effort to fight the ideas of feminism in the world right now. Unfortunately we look no different from the world in this. You go to most modern churches and you the same messages you see in the world. It sounds something like this this: The white man has taken and conquered with violence and brute force and because of their pig headed ways women have been oppressed throughout history and we have to stand together as women and take our rightful place in society and so on. As Christians we should know better then this. I look at this movement and I see hurt broken women who are trying to find what they have been looking for all their life. From a young age, both men and women are looking for the answer to a very important question. For women its am I beautiful? Am I lovely? Am I worth fighting for? For young boys its am I strong? Can I take care of myself? Am I dangerous? These questions where never answered the way they needed them to be. The feminist movement is a cry out against a real problem. Men have failed women without question. There are so many women out there that have been hurt so many times that they have become callused and bitter. Women where always meant to be able to be vulnerable and open but it seems foolish to do so when men have over and over time and time again only replied to the question with: I don’t care about you. You’re not worth my time and effort. You’re not special to me. This response can be both verbal and through action. Some of the most powerful language spoken is often through action or lack thereof. Men that make no effort to be there send a message no different then that spoken verbally with hurtful language.so in response women do the very thing that kills their souls. They take control because no longer can men be trusted with it. You don’t care about us because you are selfish jerks that only want to use women so I’m going to take my anger out on you by taking control and asserting myself. The church somehow feels like the answer is to lift up women who do behave in this combative way. The church thinks like most of the world in believing that we just need to step aside and let these angry women have whatever they want in order to keep the peace. The problem is that behaving like that can never get them what they truly want. This response is so wrong and it only hurts everyone. To the women reading this if men have ever hurt you don’t let them take even more away from you by trying to seize control. If you have watched all the old Disney animation movies you will remember some important antagonist characters like Cruella Deville and the evil step mother and especially Ursula from the little mermaid. These characters unlike the male villains had an especially evil presence. There was always something far more twisted and evil about a women lusting for power. When I was young I had nightmares about Ursula because she had to be one of the scariest Disney villains I had ever seen. Its hard to see women behave like this because its such an adulteration from what God intended. Satan has hurt so many women by convincing them they are not worth anything. God is the one man who will never hurt you and he sees something in you that you cant see in yourself and no matter what anyone has ever told you he believes that you are beautiful and lovely and his is the only opinion that should ever matter to you!

Because of this epidemic in our society today, culture has seen all forms of masculinity as evil. You talk to most evolutionists and they will all tell you that most of the masculine nature of violence and strength and male dominance are left overs from the caveman years when we still had to hunt for our food and needed the strength of men to survive as humanity. They will also tell you that now masculinity plays no real role in modern society and it needs to be phased out .I cant possibly convey to you how furious this message makes me. Masculinity like so many things is inherently good and Satan has used it to do evil. Most men today are either emasculated cowards who don’t stand for anything or twisted violent men who only hurt the people around them. The church is mostly filled with the former. The church’s idea of a perfect Christian man is the infamous “nice guy”. He walks around with a big fake smile on his face and he doesn’t stand for anything but does what everyone else tells him to do. Never making any waves, never rocking the boat. Well let me tell yah that doesn’t come close to what God has in mind for men.

If anyone tells you that Jesus was a nice guy they know absolutely nothing about him. When he came he turned the world as we know it upside down. There wasn’t a man who has ever been hated and loved as much as he has. Most people in high places of church hated his guts because he was destroying their authority. Jesus was a passionate and violent man. He was dangerous to be around. The apostles had to be constantly asking themselves does Jesus have a death wish or something? Nobody tells the Pharisees (THE leaders of the community and the church) that they are a brood of vipers! Jesus said himself that he did not come to this world to bring peace but a sword. It makes me angry to see the church making Jesus into a woos. Today its almost seen as sinful to feel too passionate about something! If you take away Gods all-powerful nature and his wrath and his fierce passion including his love get……….. Well exactly the image of God that the church offers us today. Without Gods passion and his willingness to fight for those he loves you get a God that really isn’t worth worshiping at all. Its also interesting to me how many of our nice guy Christians complain about how often girls go after the “bad boy” instead of them. The answer is clear. Women are attracted to men that exemplify the fierce passion of God and the bad boys may be going the wrong way but they sure are willing to fight for themselves . Women want to be a part of an adventure and they want to be around men that are passionate and dangerous, they want to follow someone who lives life with reckless abandon. As misguided as it might be women go after the “bad boy” because they are very dangerous and they will guarantee drama and adventure. Unfortunately these relationships always end badly because these men have no real morality and most of them are the selfish pigs that cause the problems that I wrote about above. Men ,stop griping about how women wont give you the time of day and start behaving like the kind of men that God called you to be. He needs warriors that are willing to die for the real cause of Christianity. Women you can also help men to answer this call.  I hear all the time women complaining about their husbands having weapons in the house or their little boys are to rough and they need to be like girls and be quiet and sit still. This is crushing to a mans spirit. If you want men to act with passion and strength then you have to allow them to explore their own hearts. You wonder sometimes why you cant get to your boyfriend / husbands heart? Its because they aren’t allowed to explore the most central part of their own hearts. I think of the story of William Wallace in the movie brave heart. He was an incredibly passionate man that stood for something honorable and that passion spilled into all parts of his life including his love. Masculinity is not evil, its a beautiful thing but the church has trampled it and thus taken all of the strength and the might of the church and in doing so has handed the church over to Satan to do with as he pleases. God made men to be warriors to fight the attacks of the evil one but instead we pretend like the spiritual war isn’t real. We need to explore the heart of Christianity and the passion that it was created from and dig deep. No more witty clichés that make us feel all warm and fuzzy inside but lest get together and get to the heart.

If you have read this far thank you for listening. I can’t take credit for these ideas. Many of these ideas are more eloquently expressed by Mr. John Eldridge in his books :Wild At Heart and Captivating. I highly suggest reading both of those books to learn more on this subject.